My Sister

Official Video

“My Sister” was released as a single from The Juliana Hatfield Three’s Become What You Are in 1993.

Retrospectives

In August 2013, SPIN Magazine ran a lengthy article on the history of My Sister, 20 years on, featuring quotes from all band members and others related to the song.

Juliana:

I was living in a studio apartment in Allston, Massachusetts, which is sort of like a student ghetto of cheap apartments. Evan Dando was sort of crashing there. He had nothing to do with it, but I just remember he was around. And I was trying to write something catchy and accessible, but not in a crass, commercial way. I just came up with those four chords that are the verse, and then it sort of ended up not having a chorus.

I've always been in this sort of perpetual state of existential longing. I feel like something's missing. I almost feel like I have a twin who died at birth but no one ever told me that the twin existed. And with this song, I was trying to explore the idea of a sister who I never had. In the beginning, that seemed like a really nice idea. I had two brothers, but I never had a sister. But then the song ended up being kind of sad. It was more of a longing for a sister who was never nice to me, or a relationship lacking the things that I wanted from it.

How To Play Tutorial

In December 2025 Juliana posted a ‘How To Play My Sister’ video at her newsletter page on Substack.

2026 Interview

Juliana, in an interview for the February 2026 issue of Uncut Magazine:

I was in a hotel in Michigan last week and there was this young girl working at the front desk. She saw my name when I was checking in and she's like, "Isn't that a band? The Juliana Hatfield Three?" I'm like, "Yeah, I'm the singer!" And she said, "Oh, I love My Sister', I have it on my Spotify!" It'sreally cool that a twentysomething girl is finding this music.